As school lets out and summer begins, many separated or divorced parents face a common challenge: coordinating summer vacation, parenting exchanges, and potential travel—especially out of the country—with children. While summer is a time for fun and memory-making, it's also a season where custody and visitation disputes can flare up if not proactively managed. 

Here's what you need to know to keep your summer parenting time running smoothly—and legally sound.

1. Stick to Your Court-Ordered Parenting Plan

Your parenting plan or custody order likely outlines how summer parenting time should be divided. Whether it's alternating weeks, extended summer visitation for one parent, or shared holidays like the Fourth of July, follow the agreement as written.

If you anticipate any issues—such as schedule conflicts, vacation plans, or changes in location—communicate with the other parent as early as possible. Courts expect both parents to honor the schedule or seek proper modification, not take matters into their own hands.

2. Plan Parenting Exchanges Carefully

Summer often involves more travel, camps, and irregular schedules. Coordinate exchange dates, times, and locations clearly. Use shared calendars, co-parenting apps (like OurFamilyWizard or TalkingParents), and written communication to reduce confusion and avoid last-minute disputes.

If long-distance travel is involved, consider:

• Who will cover transportation costs?

• Will a third party (like a grandparent) be involved in exchanges?

• Does the child need special accommodations?

Make plans child-centered and age-appropriate.

3. Traveling Out of State or Country? Know the Rules

If you're planning to leave the state—or especially the country—with your child, legal precautions are essential:

• Check your custody order. Some orders require written permission from the other parent or even court approval for out-of-state or international travel.

• Get written consent. A signed travel authorization letter and a copy of the itinerary should be shared in advance.

• Secure documents. Make sure your child has a valid passport and that any restrictions on international travel (such as those related to child abduction prevention) are addressed.

• Know your destination's laws. Some countries require special notarized documents or consent forms from both parents.

Failing to get proper consent before leaving with your child can lead to serious legal consequences—including contempt of court or allegations of parental kidnapping.

4. Stay Child-Focused in Communication

Whether you're planning an epic road trip or simply switching weekends, remember the goal: making summer special for your child. Avoid using the vacation schedule as a power play. Co-parenting during the summer should involve flexibility, understanding, and respect for the child's needs and wishes.

Keep your child out of adult conflicts, and ensure they feel safe and excited—rather than stressed—about their summer.

5. When in Doubt, Get Legal Guidance

If you're unsure about your rights, the limitations of your custody order, or how to handle a disagreement with your co-parent, consult a family law attorney. It's far better to clarify your legal obligations before acting than to face consequences later.

Whether you're planning a summer abroad or staying close to home, a clear parenting schedule backed by legal understanding can make all the difference.

Need Help with Summer Parenting Time?
At Shakhan & Wilkerson Law, we help parents modify visitation schedules, resolve disputes, and protect their parental rights. Contact us today for a consultation and make this summer smooth, safe, and enjoyable for you and your child.